The Modern Woman: What You Are Up Against
Women as life partners are at about the lowest they have ever been in terms of reliability in relationships/marriages. But why? When the going gets tough, the women get going. Much of it, I believe, has to do with the wave of hyper- feminism that has taken place in the last 10-15 yrs. This is the FINAL phase of the feminist plan, dating back decades. The final phase of the feminist agenda IS the modern woman. The modern woman is at war with men and their femininity. The modern woman rejects traditional women’s roles and looks to not become equal with men, but to essentially eliminate the need for men. There is no escaping the modern woman, unless you are living in a compound somewhere in the middle of nowhere and use a time machine to bring a woman from the 1990s/early 2000s. Whether it is in the dating marketplace, the workplace, or your personal life, you will have to deal with the modern woman. Here, I will help shed light on how to best deal with the modern woman and how to date them. Before you go out and try to date the modern woman, you must first understand the psychology of them. Like with anything else, before you start something, you want to have a good grasp of what you are dealing with, so you will know how to best approach it.
Modern Woman: Defined
So, what exactly is the modern woman? Are there real differences between the modern woman and the traditional woman? While there is no “official” dictionary definition of what defines a modern woman, you could most readily identify them as women who place more importance on education and their careers than on creating a family. At first glance, one may say how is this problematic? The problems become clearer when these modern women enter the dating marketplace. Women are no longer approaching dating as a means to obtain an eventual husband. More than ever before, women are using men to obtain free things, with no serious intention on forming a romantic relationship with them. Why is this? I believe this is because of what I stated earlier in my definition of the modern woman. College degrees and the pursuit of a spot in corporate America has overtaken the goal of wanting to be a man’s wife and have children. Ironically, the average modern woman sees men the way a stereotypical male chauvinist would see a woman. Men are often devalued and viewed as unnecessary.
Rivals/Competitors Instead of Help Mates
Another consequence of the emergence of the modern woman, is the heighten gender wars. The war of the sexes has reached a fevered pitch. It has gotten to a point where women are literally believing that they can fight and dominate men. Women are competing with men in the workplace. Women are attempting to even DATE like men. Women are getting down on one knee and are literally asking for men’s hand in marriage. This new growing dating approach women invariably does not have the desired dating outcomes women claim they want.
How to Date The Modern Woman
A new wave of dating ideology for men is out there, some of it is good, some not so much. One of the growing trends is the hashtag, NO DINNER DATES. Now, this is a very controversial statement for several reasons. The statement defies all previous courtship strategies. It defies traditional social norms that were passed down by our forefathers. It would certainly cause most women to lose their minds. And you know what??? I agree with it. WHY? Like stated before, the modern woman is something that we, as men, have never seen before. Never in history have men had to deal with what they are dealing with the modern woman. For this reason, men need to adopt new and innovative strategies to combat this new age women. I’m sure that you all have heard of a guy (or maybe happened to you) where he takes out a girl to a nice restaurant, then either never hears from her again or worse, proceeds to get strung along for a period of time so she can receive free meals and other goodies and giveaways. Then at some point she proceeds to break it off with him for a guy who she is serious about. Why would you want to invest into someone who is not serious about you? By not taking them out on dinner dates, you are able to gauge true interest. Instead of a dinner date at a restaurant, why don’t you let me cook for you? Or we can make a meal together? How about take a walk in the park? Or maybe a trip to a museum? Could be a walk on the beach or your harbor area? As men in the dating scene, your most important mission is to be define what is real and what is not with a woman.
Do Not Allow Yourself To Be Bullied
As stated in the previous section, there is a more than a respectable percentage of women in today’s society who believe asking for your boyfriend’s hand in marriage is perfectly fine. If they have to ask for their boyfriend’s hand in marriage, then it is safe to assume that the boyfriend is probably being somewhat bullied into marriage. Modern women have a tendency to bully and manipulate men into doing things that may not be in their best interest. I have literally heard women use the word “bully” to describe their intentions for men.
Learning to Say No and Sticking to It
As simple as it may sound, learning to say no to the modern woman is a powerful tool to have. The modern woman is not used to hearing the word “no”. In a world where phrases such as “toxic masculinity” and “male feminist” (more to come on this topic) are often thrown around to paralyze and confuse the masses of boys and men, saying no to a girl or a woman is frowned upon. To put it simply, women today are not used to men standing up to them and telling them no. A firm, but respectful, no puts the modern woman back into a place of respect with you. Outwardly they will be upset with you and may even try to insult you but inside they will be thinking, “damn, I can’t bully this guy. He is going to stand up to me. There is a limit to where I can take things with him.” Telling a woman no sets boundaries and trust me men, women need to know what your boundaries are. You’ve got to learn how to say no to them sometimes, fellas.
Great website! You are giving alot of solid points about today’s women in the modern world.
Thank you!!!! Plan on bringing more content!
This piece really dives into a sensitive and complex topic. I can see the frustration behind some of these views, but I think relationships today are changing for deeper reasons than just feminism or modern culture.
Many women are pursuing education and careers not because they reject men, but because they seek independence and mutual respect in partnerships.
The truth is, both men and women are adapting to a fast-changing world, and we all need empathy, communication, and balance to make it work. Rather than seeing each other as opponents, maybe the challenge is to rediscover teamwork in love and life.
John
Thank you, John, for your response. I think you are mistaking frustration with wisdom. You are mischaracterizing my viewpoint. I never said women “reject men”. I postulate that women who hold feminist/modernistic views tend to place finding quality men to marry and procreate with on a lower level of priority than traditional women. I find this to be both anecdotally and more than likely, empirically true.
This post raises provocative points about shifting gender dynamics, but it paints modern women with an overly broad and negative brush. While it’s true that societal changes have redefined roles and priorities, framing educated, career-driven women as “anti-men” overlooks the complexity of modern relationships. Feminism, at its core, advocates equality — not hostility. Many modern women still value love, partnership, and family but also want personal fulfillment and independence. The real challenge isn’t feminism; it’s adapting to evolving expectations of partnership built on mutual respect and shared growth. Instead of viewing women as adversaries, understanding them as equals with their own ambitions and boundaries can lead to healthier, more balanced relationships. Growth and connection require empathy, not division, in navigating today’s relationship landscape.
Thank you, Andrejs, for your very detailed and informative feedback. I definitely appreciate it.
A couple of things I want to address in your response.
1. “paints modern women with an overly broad and negative brush.”
Not quite sure where I painted women in a broad and negative brush. Not all women hold modernistic beliefs/ideologies. I, perhaps, should have given further explanation of what I believe to be a traditional woman, so as to distinguish the differences.
2. “Feminism, at its core, advocates equality — not hostility.”
With respect, you are giving a textbook definition of feminism, not the real-world, ground-level application of the ideology used by women. And to dig even further into it, feminism is even exclusionary within gender, in that it only seems to benefit white women. Feminism in practice is not conducive to creating strong families. It promotes men-bashing (which I’ve heard throughout the workplace for years). It also promotes young women not to want kids at all, which again, negatively impacts relationships and families.
3. “Instead of viewing women as adversaries”
Again, you accuse me of hating/attacking women, which is not the case. In fact, I am a happily married man of 10 plus. My wife is someone I would define as a traditional woman. I want men to be aware of what they probably already know but have never seen put into words. My goal is to educate men so they can decide what they want.