The Importance of Having Women Who Are Your Cheerleaders/Advocates.
We as men are often “beaten up” by society. Society either tells you that you are too masculine (i.e., toxic masculinity) or that you are too soft (simp). Keeping up with all these labels can put a man through mental and emotional stress. Any man who is telling you the truth about life would tell you that being a REAL MAN is a LONELY road. A road where men can be blamed for LITERALLY ANYTHING wrong in the world. I will be very honest. A man must be “complete” to make it in this world. One of the essential parts is a loyal and supportive woman at your side. However, finding a solid woman is not easy for most of us. Sure, you can find a woman to be with you, but ask yourself, and be honest. Does she really support you? If so, in what way? As women tend to be hypergamous, men should be equally selective. The difference, though, is the intentions or aims of men vs women. Women often pursue men to climb the socioeconomic ladder, and rightfully so. Men, on the other hand, should pursue women who offer unwavering support and loyalty. While this is not necessarily the only trait you look for, a woman who knows how to OPENLY express her admiration, support, and loyalty to you is definitely a plus. Don’t misunderstand, a woman can genuinely care about you but struggle with self-expression (particularly the modern, overly masculine female).
What does it say about HER?
You can gain several good insights from a woman who is openly/verbally supportive of you. It says that she has a very healthy amount of respect for you, and she doesn’t mind everyone else knowing it. We live in a society where it is normal for women to express hatred towards men openly. Believe it or not, some women have MASSIVE egos and are VERY prideful. Hurling insults towards men is the modern woman’s favorite hobby. By keeping this concept in mind regarding a typical woman’s mindset, praising us publicly is harder than trashing us. It is almost as if women fear other women knowing that they ACTUALLY have respect for a man. Having a woman who openly supports you is one of the key signs you can get when gauging interest levels. If a woman openly supports you, especially around her friends or family, it is a very positive sign. If nothing else, it says that no matter what, you have a person who thinks the world of you, and that’s always a good thing! What you want to avoid is a woman who expresses romantic interest but has CONTEMPT for men. I know, it sounds strange, doesn’t it? A woman who shows romantic interest in you but displays behaviors that contradict that very attraction she claims she has for you. Unfortunately, it is not uncommon for men to find themselves involved with women who not only have a negative feeling towards them but men in general. These types of women are somewhat difficult to identify. It becomes exponentially more difficult when your judgment is clouded by your emotions towards her. In order to identify, you have to remain as objectively as possible, this is especially important in the courting phase. You are trying to determine whether or not this person truly respects you or is just using you for some sort of ulterior motive. Yes, women date and even marry men whom they secretly despise.
How Do You Identify a Woman Who Has Contempt for You
The biggest indicator is how she speaks about you when you are not around. This is going to take some high-level emotional intelligence and knowing someone she trusts. Someone who she confides in but is also cool with you is a big win. This person will be able to tell you what she is saying about you behind closed doors.
Let’s go back to the topic of emotional intelligence and why it is important for you to have it in your male toolkit. Emotional intelligence (EQ) helps you to read her body language when you talk to her. EQ allows you to be able to effectively scan her as she speaks to you. Scan how she reacts to your good news. Does she sound excited? Or does she give a low-energy reply? A, “Oh, that’s good, babe”, as she looks away at her phone. Does she immediately turn the attention on herself? Does she immediately tear down your idea? How does she respond to your bad news? If you tell her something important that is meant only for her ears, will she go off and tell others about what you said? Does she offer assistance in helping you to make your ideas a reality?
Final Thoughts
A woman who can openly express her admiration for you speaks to the woman’s potential ability to verbally communicate when she is not happy with you, which is extremely important when considering taking your relationship to the next level with someone. One of the bigger complaints of men is passive aggressiveness from women. I believe that passive aggressiveness is one of the biggest reasons why relationships/marriages become toxic. A verbally supportive woman also speaks to the high self-esteem that she has in HERSELF. Finding truly confident women is like finding a needle in a haystack. If you can find a woman who is interested in you AND she can EFFECTIVELY communicate with you her likes and dislikes, push her to the top of the list!!! In her, you have found an outlier, a rare find. Do everything you can to make it work!