Is She Interested in You? An Overview
There is much out on this subject, but for me, it boils down to some key points. Ask yourself and be honest. This is particularly important early on in the courtship/relationship process. Looking for the correct signs of high interest can save you time, money, and heartbreak.
Basic But Important Questions:
More often than not, you should be seeing high energy from her. How often do you find yourself having to start conversations with her instead of vice versa? Is she asking you to go out to places with her? Even trivial outings matter in this case. Does she comment on your appearance routinely? Does she want to introduce you to her family/close friends? Is she making herself compliant in the way YOU see the world? Most women who are highly attracted/ or has high respect for a man, often are agreeable to what he is saying. Is she soft or hard around you? Even the modern female (who is known to be more masculine than previous generations of women) will become softer around men who they are attracted to. How often is she trying to figure out ways to get you to spend more time with her? The point is that she needs to PROVE herself worthy of your effort to begin a romantic journey with her.
Eye Contact
Eye contact is also very important. Eyes are the window to the soul. With the proper training, you can identify certain “tells” a woman give when she finds you attractive and is interested. When you look into her eyes, does she look excited to see you? Does she scan you with her eyes? Looking you up and down?
Physical Touch
I gave physical touch its own section because how important it is in figuring if a woman is interested in you. Establishing physical touch is a big tell when there is attraction. A woman feeling comfortable enough to either establish physical contact with you or to allow you to establish physical contact is very important. We are not only social creatures, who needs social interaction on some basic level, we also need physical touch. Physical touch is one the most important ways we physically establish our spoken feelings for someone. For platonic relations, a friendly embrace or a handshake, physically communicates what a person means to you. For romantic relationships and marriages, we often kiss or make love to physically communicate that we love or deeply care for that person.
However, as women are becoming more bro-like, it can be sometimes hard to tell if a woman’s touch means attraction. Still, a woman who touches you suggests that, at the VERY LEAST, she is very comfortable with you.
To Sum It Up:
Women lead the dance of the courtship. A man’s approach should be based off the energy the woman gives. Follow the signs of high interest and you will drastically decrease the odds of rejection. While rejection is part of the game and should be learned from, it is not something you should want to experience if you can avoid it. As men, we often set own selves up for failure when we violate these vital signs of interest.
Special Note to Men:
Please be careful of being the one to establish the physical touch aspect of the courtship. We live in a society now that men can be accused of sexual assault or harassment despite having honorable intentions or even being told that their advances were welcomed. To err on the side of caution, I would recommend that you allow the woman to establish the physical touching during the courting phase. If the woman has high interest in you, she should already have a history of establishing physical touch with you.