Emotionally Vulnerable-To Be or Not to Be

 When you are ready to take your dating/relationship with someone to the next level, if you want to find out if the person is feeling you…show them a side of you that you rarely show anyone, be willing to be vulnerable, and see how she reacts.  One good way to do this is to become emotionally vulnerable.  Contrary to what women say, women tend to get uncomfortable with an openly emotional man, particularly in the early stages of the courtship.  Emotionally vulnerable guys tend to get friend or brother zoned.  Much of today’s research on the subject suggests that women PREFER men who are emotionally open to them.  However, research also shows that most men still believe that being emotional around women is a negative.  Why the discrepancy?  As I will often say throughout our journey, women are PROLIFIC actors; that is, they are masters of the “pump-fake”.  Women SAY a lot about what they want in a man, what they are attracted to.  However, men who are in the dating scene see who women typically CHOOSE are NOT who they say want; thus explains the discrepancy in men’s and women’s opinions on male vulnerability.  Most men who have a reasonable amount of experience with women know that what women say they want in a man is often different than what they end up with.    Women are traditionally wired to be attracted to men who present a high command of their emotions.  Becoming emotionally vulnerable early in the courtship is a high-risk/high-reward move.  If you allow yourself to become emotionally vulnerable and she does not run for the hills, I would put her in your top 3 of potential long-term mates. Because in her, you will have a woman who stands by what she says, which VERY important when building a relationship with a woman.